Do you want to get on with his ex-wife?
Hey I moved over here in the late 1990's and moved in with this great guy (GG)who had been separated since 1982. His ex-wife (EW) remarried in 1994 but was very friendly and she and her husband frequently socialised with us.
In October 2000, the mechanics of the whole tribe changed. Their son was staying with us while he worked in town and every other Sunday, the ex-wife would drop in for coffee. We would sleep in late and one morning the son came up and told his father to hurry up and come down and say hi to mum. Son's age 31!.
One morning I was home alone (or so I thought) and walked across the hallway to get the hairdryer in the nude only to find the front door being opened and the ex-wife walking through. I spoke to my lover and said I didn't think this was fair that the ex-wife should only come on invitation or at least someone could tell me she was expected.
Then we met up at a family occassion and she asked was I homesick and why didn't I go back to my country!! Then of course she disappeared into the small pub's toilet and cried her eyes out saying that she still loved him and wished they were still married and their children don't have a home to go to any more!! In fact the children had two homes they could go to. The children (in their 20's to 30's) were always welcome - I loved their company and everyone knew that.
So then there would be phone calls and coffees to "clear the air". Christmas was always interesting as who would have Christmas and who would come? EW always had Christmas lunch which I thought was great - little input by me - very easy. However my mother and brother were coming over for Christmas one year and we were having Christmas Dinner at our place.
GG's kids would be here as well so naturally we invited EW and her husband. She phoned GG to say she wanted to have a party and invite my mother and brother to her party as well as us. My family were only here for 10 days and we already had plans. GG doesn't say anything. EW phones me and I tell her that we already have plans and unfortunately can't make it. EW says she will change the date to fit in. I say no please don't as we'll be under too much pressure to travel at that time of the year. I phone GG who is away and tell him about the call and he agrees we can't make it.
Next day GG (away overseas)gets half a dozen phone calls saying that EW wants all of us there and unless we go she will not attend Christmas lunch. GG phones that night to see what day we'll go to EW's party!! I say we agreed that we can't fit it in with the travelling we're doing with my family.
Lunch for 13 people is interesting!! And the EW turns up of course. GG is then in the bad books with EW because 20 years later he won't do what she wants even though she has re-married.
To be continued. I'm just curious is this the sort of behaviour of ex-wives? I don't know as I'm not an ex-wife.
